I’ve been quiet about something big the past few months. Partly because I didn’t know how to share it and also because I wasn’t certain how long it would last.
3 months ago, my husband got laid off from his job.
I know this has happened to many of my friends and family before. You guys get it. I have a brand new sense of empathy now for this experience. It has been humbling and also oddly enough very affirming.
Losing a job is nothing to have hidden, and yet I did. I shared with very few friends. I didn’t want it to define us or be pitied.
But now that time has passed, I know I need to sound the horns and circle the wagons for two reasons: 1) to accept support, which I am terrible at asking for; and 2) to share our story so others can see that there is always hope in this situation.
I call it the Three P’s: Persevere, Pray and Plan. They are action verbs too because when job loss happens, you feel more empowered when you can DO something about changing your situation.
What has helped me the most has been being able to slowly accept it. I realize it hasn’t devastated us financially in the way I was expecting, and it has shown us what we are made of.
We both work harder at our businesses: my law firm and my new Beautycounter business (I started it mere days before the termination) and my husband can now dedicate time to his computer forensics business. Those have been the saving grace because we feel empowered. There IS something we can do.
Few things rock you to your core like being told the main source of your family income is gone. But I choose to look at it as more than a money situation. It is a heart situation. And we are choosing to listen to how God is moving and working in our lives. I can say this: we are growing in our faith and are taking so much comfort in the words and deeds of family and friends.
One of my favorite words is HOPE. Danny Gokey’s song “Hope in Front of Me” has become my new theme song (even if it also makes me teary).
I am thankful we did Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University several years ago. We don’t totally feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath us. We are in a much better financial picture now having already attacked our debts and having built an emergency fund. You know, Murphy’s Law—if it can go wrong, it will. We certainly don’t want Murphy to set up residence at our home.
Dave Ramsey’s course taught us how important having an emergency fund is. Did you know that 78% of people will have a major negative financial event in any given 10-year period (says Money magazine)? That’s a really high percent. OK, so I’m hoping this is our ONE event and we’re getting it out of the way. And I’d prefer if it were our last! Seriously, having a plan has saved my sanity for sure.
Now, could I ask you to do something?
We crave your prayers and support as we settle into this new normal (although hopefully shortlived). It’s by no means insurmountable, but it’s been an interesting few months. (Not to mention 2 car accidents added to the mix.)
Since I’m asking for your prayers and positive thoughts, can I do the same for you? Sharing our burdens makes them so much lighter. Or feel free to share your joys. Either way! Please share them with me in the comments.